This view of myself may come across as either arrogant or self-deluded and it may seem weird to you that I can be so sure of myself, but I believe that this comes from a good knowledge of myself, my aspirations and what things in this world cause a passion in me that inspires action. It is something that I believe all people need to discover about themselves in order to begin to derive purpose in their lives, as well as a confidence and healthy self-love – that we require to form and maintain strong relationships with fellow humans. I mean, how can we love others until we understand how to love ourselves for what we are and, through this, begin to accept our own faults in order to overlook those of others? But I digress.
Maybe, like me, you aren't fazed by the unmapped path your life will inevitably take toward the eminent – but theoretically unreachable – future. Instead, maybe you are a person who dwells in past worries and actions that cause regret or embarrassment… but, again, I am not really this person. It is said that it is dangerous to dwell for too long in the past and I guess, in a lot of ways, this is true. In this respect, the main problem I face is dwelling in the positives of my past and how things used to be so fun and easy. While a small bit of nostalgia can be good, if I am not careful it can begin to distract from all the good things of the present and stop me from moving forward as a person, which I will get to later. I might paint it in a bad light, but I am far from complaining: I would pick nostalgia any day over the alternative of regret and embarrassment, which many people face daily. I have done stuff I regret: we all have and, although that statement is a cliché, it’s the truth. I mentioned above the importance of knowing yourself and a healthy self-love and I do believe that this should be something that all people aspire to, but I also believe that to get to this place one needs to learn the discipline of forgiveness: both for oneself and for others. It is in forgiveness that you can accept your own faults, as well as those who have wronged you, and break free from whatever it is that is causing worry in your past.
My worries, however, lay not in the past or the future, but instead the present. For some people, present worry will include everyday stuff like assignments, school and other commitments, which undoubtedly cause stress among all who have to deal with them: including myself. For me at the moment, though, a big worry is that of becoming complacent in who I am and ceasing to push myself daily to achieve new things. It seems that looking too much into future can make it easy to fall into and attitude of just 'waiting it out': waiting until you have that degree; waiting until you have that job or until you are married and successful. I wonder if this is the right thing. I look to my past and see the times where I was pushing myself at such high levels and I remember how much I thrived on it. I worry that I may one day loose this spirit to an attitude of waiting it out and becoming complacent. Again, this is just me. I am sure that you are different and, if you were to be just like me, that would be a little creepy.
I like to think that I am different to others and that my worries are in part unique, so I guess it frustrates me that, after all this, it is yet another cliché that answers my problems. I am not going to repeat, but the gist is that today is a gift and that we should try and make the most of it. To me, this means pushing ourselves daily to try and better ourselves and to try new, exciting things. I guess if there was really a point to all this, which I think relates to all people, it would be that to avoid worry our lives we should go about knowing, forgiving, loving and living non-complacent lives with others and, of equal importance, with ourselves.
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