There's something about the term 'boyfriend' that draws girls towards it, maybe it's the fact that they have a guy to spend time with, hug and tell everything to. Too many girls 'fall in love' with guys they've just met and get caught up in the feeling of belonging to a guy and they end up getting hurt by the young boy who wasn't prepared to take it so seriously. But to me belonging doesn't need to come from your new boyfriend, it should come from family, the ones who are going to support you and love you through everything. This is where I think some girls are missing the male fatherly figure to look up to so they instead turn to close relationships with guys to make them feel wanted.
It breaks my heart to see girls getting hurt over and over again when they have given everything to the boy that they thought was the one. Each time they pour themselves into these guys it leaves a little part of them behind and eventually when they meet the guy made for them they'll have nothing left to give.
The natural feeling of being intimate with someone often takes over the real morals of a good relationship and can make a girl feel on top of the world. The butterflies in your tummy you get when you hug a guy for the first time or the way your heart beats can be mistaken for love by young girls and it's very easy to get caught up in the good feeling. It's easy for a guy to hug a girl but not so easy to be a good boyfriend. That feeling of intimacy is hard to break, although hugging, holding hands and kissing can be pretty nice, real conversation and a good friendship with a guy is better. Although it may not feel like that, in the long term you'll have a better relationship and be able to talk about anything with each other.
I'm not saying high school relationships are bad and that every girl is like this because that's not true. I'm saying that young relationships can feel really intense and you just have to be careful cause a lot of the time they don't work out and you don't want to be left feeling like your nothing because you gave it all away to a guy who wasn’t who you though he was.
A father daughter relationship is so vital in a girl’s life as she is growing up, fathers were made for loving and protecting their little girls. My dad has showed me so much love in my life, he has shown me that I don't need a boyfriend to feel loved and special and cherished. He loves me and he tells me every day, he looks after me and makes sure I'm safe and I know that he'll never break my heart.
My only hope is that every little girl will be given a father figure, although it may not be their real dad. I just hope that they will be shown they are so special and loved and that they don't need a boyfriend to know that.
